girl with luggage

You Can’t Go Home Again

Today is moving day.  The movers are at the house packing up our daily life into boxes.

girl with luggage

Why the move?  I was heavily influenced by fellow blogger Doris Lee who writes at Diary of An Interior Novice.  In a post back in April (right before Easter holidays), she mentioned some great advice she had been given on marriage by a former colleague.  She was told to create a joint bucket list with her husband for what you as a couple want to accomplish whether in one year, 5 years or 10 years down the road.  I discussed this idea with Mr. N and he could not contain his enthusiasm for a “lets-talk-about-our-future-talk”.

Mr. N couldn’t avoid the topic though when he got stuck in a car with me on our 7 hour road trip from Pennsylvania down to the Outer Banks of North Carolina over Easter. He and I realised we didn’t even know what we wanted out of life in the next year never mind further down the road.  We’d just gotten into this habit of drifting happily towards whatever waited us next.

welcome to north carolina

We did agree that our family time together was most important and that we simply did not get enough of it.   The solution to this problem was relatively simple.  Sell our house in Belsize Park and downsize which is part of the 1 year plan.  We would then be in a position to figure out our next move without the pressure of a mortgage.  I would love to do a round-the-world-trip with the children but, somehow, I think that is part of the 10 year plan.  Baby steps.

Enough introspection, so let’s focus on the positives of our soon-to-be-empty home.  Our garden is looking glorious with all the sunshine London has been having.

The wisteria is growing long and I love the little jungle attitude it’s got, like it thinks it’s a bad-ass jungle vine.

overgrown wisteria

Back in March I took part in the Urban Revival challenge set up by online garden shop Plant Me Now and the results are now showing.  The front planters are sprouting flowers everywhere!  I love the pink colour against the dark grey. It’s definitely Urban Revival – The Fast-Track Version.  Unfortunately, the flowers are already beginning to fade in this summer’s heat even with regular watering.  I should be thinking ahead to winter colour  and to putting in spring bulbs and winter bedding plants. That would make our garden pretty even in the dark grey days of winter when the sky matches our trellis paint.

I hope the new owners keep up the summer planting and think ahead to putting in spring bulbs and winter bedding.  Good-bye flowers!  Good-bye house!  Thank you for the memories.

16 thoughts on “You Can’t Go Home Again

  1. Sheryl

    I’m sad to see you leave that beautiful home!!! But then I’m so excited to see what amazing things you will do to your next one!!!

  2. Packing my Suitcase

    This is actually a great idea, making a bucket list for the future… I normally do this with my husband. We are only 2 years married and 4 years together, but I hope to keep this idea on… its important! 🙂 good luck with the move!

    1. nylonliving Post author

      Thanks Andrea! I think it’s wise advice for any couple – planning a future together – but people don’t actual do the nuts and bolts planning part.

  3. Hilary

    WOW! So smart what you are doing in downsizing (less stress is better for everyone) but so difficult to leave a loved home and a gorgeous garden. I am looking forward to reading about the next chapter. I think you could move the around the world to the 5 year plan, right?

    1. nylonliving Post author

      I would love to move the RTW to a 5 year plan! The 10 year plan may work better with the kids’ schooling though. They can do a gap year with their parents 🙂

  4. Sarita @TheOrange Gift Bag

    Hey Shobha. So the other house worked out after all ha. I remember all the back and forth discussions while you were at The Hive! Congratulations and may your new home be filled with much happiness, laughter and fun:-)


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